Well this was probably the last thing I thought I would write about so many years ago. As a soldier I believe I was probably conditioned to be less than emotional about situations, however, I have never really put much thought into, until recently, the ability to use emotions as a tool. Through the MKMMA Course we have experienced and been introduced to such great concepts. The fact that this advice was so effective for me this last week, I felt strongly about writing about it. We focus on 5 Components:
- HURT FEELINGS
Fear is one of the strongest of these tools; however, it comes with the need for hard mental labor to overcome the ‘imagined’ threat.
Why do I consider it the strongest tool, because it carries with it an enormous amount of energy; and should you see the strength in that you will also see the focus it provides. Think about this, when we are in ‘Real Fear’, i.e. imminent harm, we become instantly laser focused. We quickly gather the necessary information, gather the parameters of the field of concern and define our response and action plan. Just that alone is awe inspiring. We can use this same process any time we want. we already own it and have perfected it all our life. The problem is that we have never realized how this tool we own works, until now.
So FEAR should now be seen as ‘concentration and focus’ perhaps with mix of imagination.
Essentially when we have hurt feelings it is an acknowledgement that ‘We Care’
Is really a cool guide. Feelings of unworthiness serve to keep us on our true path; it is the guide inside us all that just says hey, you’re straying off the path, get back to the direction you need to be going. Considerate the compass needle, always telling you what direction you are headed; when your going in an off directions it sounds off and lets your know.
So how does this all work, this week I have felt a little off course, both at work (THE J.O.B.) and the business; and of course I felt a l little unworthy of the responsibilities placed on me In both. Which made me feel guilty for taking on so much, and angry that I was not living up to the responsibilities that I know I am capable of fulfilling. Together all these made me feel a little fearful of the repercussions of failing…..
Here lies the gold. The fear started to get me focused, the harm is imminent in the JOB, just yesterday a friend and colleague was walked out for lack of performance. (I work in a high paced, team environment, where all members must work diligently and effectively as individuals and as teams, or the tasks just don’t get completed. Timeliness and Innovation is a cornerstone and is very important to the companies reputation). So back to the gold, the anger helped me focus as it was directed inside. So with the focus, a clearer picture of what I needed to produce and a rapid time appreciation, I set out a plan of achievement, and commenced to go to work. While a few ‘Other’ things got sent my way I just took them in stride and continually reassessed my needs and plan to accomplish the bigger picture. Peers and Managers, instead of working around came without request to my support, and clear the path of obstacles for me. What started out as a off week has finished with a great many personal accomplishments and gratitude given to me by way of the ‘Master Mind’. It amazed me, not that I focused and really took some large bites out of projects that I am working on, but all the gratitude and support that just showed up to assist without request. So I can only realize that the difference this week was the use of Emotions as Tools really came together to show me their value in a way that I had never overtly noticed. WILD!